Oops She Said It Again!

If you listen long enough the truth will come out!

I had an interesting dialog with a woman this past Friday with a woman I once considered for marriage. It’s safe to assume she is currently an “ex” because I said “once considered”. I like how in algebra “X” is the unknown and how we use “ex” to refer to someone who once held a former place or position. OK, moving on; as always the conversation managed to go south because of a disagreement (#3,899 ). There is always this need for her to deflect from the facts when they are presented to her. It didn't take long into the relationship for me to learn what gas lighting was.

I found it worth noting how much of the truth about our former relationship was made know to me in just fifteen minutes into the conversation. The more a person talks, the more they often reveal. It is when you slow them down long enough in their monologue with a “I’m sorry…say that again” and they have that “oh crap…say what..?” look on their face. The realization they may have said something, they meant to keep hidden from you is written all over their face; In this case, I could hear it in her voice.

Oops, she said it again! Call it a Freudian slip or diarrhea of the mouth when a person gets so confident in a conversation, they eventually reveal their true intent or some deception from the past. What can I say, I picked this person, but I am sure as hell thankful, I didn't marry her. I truly can understand the statement “Love Is Blind” but in my case, I wasn't deaf and dumb!

Failed relationships, I never consider a waste of time, they ( for me) are learning experiences. In a relationship you’re either loved and appreciated or used and discarded. Perhaps that's a stretch for some to read that, but that's my reality. I was married for 29 years and it was at year number five, I felt that something wasn't right, something was missing from my marriage. It wasn't until I retired from the military, and I had no more deployments to go on, that I realized what the problems were.

What I learned from the marriage I ended, was something I was able to spot in the woman I referred to previously as “ex”. Roses may be RED,beautiful and fragrant but they do have thorns!

Accountability, In any relationship, personal or business; your success or failure may hinge on if you can own up to your mistakes, short falls, or the role you played in past failures. I can go on. We are, where we are in this life because of the choices we make. Sure, life may have influenced your decisions based on circumstances beyond your control. But ultimately, the choices are yours.

Pass of fail, can you “OWN YOUR SHIT!” Or have you become skilled in covering it up! Sooner or later, the truth will reveal itself, just keep living, keep talking!

Going Against The Grain.

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